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Type of bind: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 616.86
EAN num: 9780062505903
ISBN number: 0062505904
Label: HarperOne
Manufacturer: HarperOne
Quantity: 1
Page Count: 448
Printing Date: December 13, 1989
Publishing house: HarperOne
Release Date: December 13, 1989
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In her pioneering Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody traced the origins of codependence back to childhood and a wide range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Now in this innovative new workbook, she presents a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the 'precious child' and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence--the lack of dependence on self.
In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody very first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater self-awareness and further recovery.
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Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence
Great companion for working the CODA 12 steps. makes tackling that fearsome 4th Step a lot easier. Simplify your recovery.... this workbook is a 'must have' tool.
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Ok, ok, I have to admit I have journaled this year and so I bought the book hoping it would help me streamline the work I need to do. However, it didn't. But not because it's not well thought out but because I prefered to follow my own thoughts and feelings in my own way rather than the way layed out in the book. If you're interested in purchasing this book I recommend looking at it in person and carefully thinking about whether it will be helpful to you. It's basically lots of empty space (so you can journal) but it does give you suggestions and examples on what to journal about. I'd say that the more you struggle facing your issues the more helpful the book will be to you because it will give you ideas.
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It took me several years before I was ready to work this book. I would pick it up, get paralyzed with fear, and then put it down. Once I was ready, it changed my life completely. I buy a new one every year or so, and work it for different reasons. Totally changed my world. I am forever grateful to the author.
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This book was extremely helpful as a follow-up to Pia Mellody's other books.I know someone in recovery for drug and alcohol addictions and this book has helped me to help support them in their recover.
reccommend it.
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I've taken a few sessions with Diane, a cognitive therapist, who has shown an interest in Melody's work. From the little I've read it seems that the work of Freud and Jung are at the heart of this type of analysis. From memory Freud argues that there are conscious and unconscious levels of human experience.
At the conscious level we go about our day to day lives growing, working, having families and other relationships as we may. The sub-conscious level of being is the fundamentally human, the BIOS of being. Here we are programmed to procreate and well being is achieved by behaving in ways consistent with successful procreating and nurturing. The two may collide as life choices at the conscious level ...
I think that a practical person has to start with simple assumptions like, `in the end we are all dead', and no matter what else, the dog needs a bone.
This is why I value the stuff I've read from Freud and Jung and see the study of the `child within' from behaviourists and cognitive therapists like Melody and Diane useful and instructive, but apt to take you beyond the point of utility. What is the reason for analysing the mysteries of childhood? Probably to identify points of dissonance between the conscious and unconscious aspects of self and to experiment with healing strategies which lead to healthier being. But there needs to be a line in the sand beyond which you press to make the experience of life the point rather than be lost under too much analysis.
The danger is always at the level of the navel. Anything too far south of the navel for too long can in the end lead to time consuming introspections which channel energy where is might have been more usefully employed at the practical level.
Because of this fear of losing the plot, being analytical to a point of purity and inertia, I feel more attracted to Seligman's texts, like Learned Optimism. Although wordy and victim of the modern determination to demonstrate that the underlying methodology is clinical and tested, it falls into the `kick in the bum' camp. By this I mean Seligman wants the reader to move forward in life, to live more successfully having learned of the kinds of errors of thought which waylay us all to some degree or another.
Melody is deep navel. She is an iconoclast and defensive to the point of leaving little time for self improvement. By the time I'd accepted I'd wounded my `child within' I was ready to cauterize the bastard and throw the bone at the dog rather than to the dog. To be fair she turns the ship into safer waters in her recovery workbook but for god's sake I'll die of the tedium before I finish the exercises and get into recovery.
Besides, my `bsmeter' goes into meltdown when someone defines their descriptor of human life so broadly as to include everyone and adds to that that anyone who questions whether or not they fit the bill as being in denial. Diane commented in this regard during one session. If a descriptor is universal and defended by a huge protective moat, it risks defining nothing more accurately than its own purity and purposelessness.
Apart from being forward looking, Seligman concludes that we arbitrate our own destiny. At the end of the day he has us able to fix ourselves if we want to. Change what you can and acknowledge that that which you can't change is something you can manage, maybe with drugs in the case of some depressions for example.
Co-dependence theorising is fine, but the ship is at sea taking water, so let's stop looking at the errors in the maps we were issued with and turn the boat around before it hits another iceberg.
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